18 Best Sex Toys for Beginners That Anyone Can Master

(In addition to, you know, your hand.) It seems like they would the natural addition to your sex life. As most vibrators are app-controlled, it’s easy to give your partner the ability to control them remotely—an excellent way to add new thrills to any long-distance relationship. As Carol Queen, sex educator and staff at Good Vibrations says, panty vibes can also be a smart assistive device for anyone who doesn’t have great hand strength or motor control. Nicely, panty vibrators work as external vibrators sans underwear vibrators, too, with various vibration patterns and strengths. The best panty vibrators (and vibrating panties) slide inside underwear or are built-in, making for delicious, hands-free partner play.

That can feel great—but some people prefer more targeted stimulation, which is where other smaller massagers come into play, Dr. Litner says. Compact toys can also be easier to hold and control (although using a toy mount or sex pillow can help), may be better for some positions with a partner, and are a great choice for travel too. Although it’s called a cock ring, this sleek little product is a couples’ favorite because it does double-duty as a vibrator and can also stimulate the perineum, making it ideal for a twosome. “The constricted blood flow to the penis and the simultaneous clitoral stimulation during penetration can help both partners reach a prolonged and super intense orgasm,” Starkman says.

Add some water-based lube to the tube, and you’ll have an experience that’s meant to simulate what I can only describe as a post-blow job handjob on steroids (thanks to the stroker’s six vibration patterns). In a nutshell, that’s the Maude Vibe , which is why it has been noted as a favorite of not just one, but two Mashable reporters. It only has one button to turn it on and off and sort through the three vibration speeds. Its design is frankly stunning (and we don’t use this word for just any old vibrator; this one was literally featured in the MoMA Design Store), and its simplicity makes it shine.

“You’ll be surprised by how much this tiny, unobtrusive thing can do,” Weiss says of longtime fan-favorite, the Crave Vesper. The fact that it doubles as sleek, chic, eye-catching jewelry is the cherry on top of the sundae. Check that you’re happy with the size – it may be bigger or smaller than you thought. If there’s a vibe gathering dust underneath your bed right now (no judgement), adding an attachment can make a huge difference. The original Magic Wand is corded, so it will never die on you in the middle of a session (so not cool). But if you don’t have an outlet nearby, you may want to try the brand’s rechargeable model instead.

German brand Fun Factory makes some of the best-engineered vibes on the market, which is why this rabbit is so damn good. Its ultra-powerful dual motors serve up deep, thrumming vibration to both the G-spot and the clit (or to the prostate and perineum, if used anally). The flexibility of its external arm allows it to move with you when you thrust the toy—and thrusting is a breeze with this vibe, because of its looped handle.