How to Use a Dildo: Step by Step Instructions with Video

If there was a happy medium on the dildo scale, this ombre So Divine option would be that exactly. If it’s feelings of fullness you’re after, you’ve come to the right place. Collaborating with sex education platform Jouissance Club, Biird has crafted a short but girthy (chodey, if you will) dildo that won’t bang against your cervix during your solo sesh. The toy is also waterproof so you can make a splash in the bathroom. It’s easy to clean too, use sex toy cleaner or anti-bacterial soap with water.

Our in-house team of reviewers has collectively tried over 500 sex toys—the ones we featured here are amongst their tried-and-true faves. We also asked sex educators and therapists to share the products that have been the biggest game-changers in their clients’ and patients’ solo and partnered sex lives. The final list only includes options that earned two enthusiastic thumbs up. Single-use sex toys are “the most underrated option for first-time sex-toy owners,” according to one SELF sexual wellness writer.

However, some may prefer silicone-based lubes due to how well they stay on. Silicone lubes are usually not compatible with silicone toys. Often, these will be marketed as standard dildos that women usually use. We feel sexually aroused and the muscles in the vagina soften and relax. It’s the natural erotic impulse to want to experience sexual intercourse.

For those that are not waterproof Inflatable Dildo, you may have to use a damp cloth. This slightly pricier ($140) ejaculating dildo is one of the hand-pump options we were talking about earlier. The bulbed approach means you can’t use the squirting feature with a strap on harness, but the dildo is also strap on compatible if you just want to use it without squirting. The one downside is you’re limited to squirting the volume of liquid the toy can hold, which is about 1 oz of fluid. You should combine with some kind of supporting underwear or harness for best results. We recommend something like the RodeoH O-jock for double ended dildos (you can use this link to sign up for their rewards program and get 10% off).

When I first saw these realistic dildos from Oxy Shop, I thought, “Okay, this looks intense.” And I was not wrong. With four sizes to choose from, I debated between playing it safe or going big. Let’s just say—whichever size you pick, you’re in for a ride.

If you’ve never discussed adding adult sex toys, you might want to take it slow and talk about what interests you both. Introducing a double-ended dildo or a butt plug to your foreplay might be a stretch too far, at first. High-quality dildos should have all safety features in check. Make sure that the dildo is made of a non-porous material (silicone, glass, or metal).

The most realistic feeling dual density dildos are primarily made of TPE, a soft and delicate material that can be layered in varying densities on top of each other. They are characterized by a smooth surface soft outer skin over a firm core. How long your dildo will last depends on what it’s made of, how often you use it, and how you take care of it. High-quality sex toys made from more durable materials, like silicone or glass , can last a lifetime with proper care. If you see signs of wear and tear, it’s best to replace your dildo to avoid the risk of infection.

Are you planning to use the toy only for self-stimulation or will it also be used with a partner? Some dildos have flat bases that can make them easier to use on their own. Others have two ends and are intended for use with a male or female partner. If you’re looking for a traditional single-ended dildo, you’ll find that there are different shaft styles. Some are smooth while others have ribs and bumps along their surfaces for enhancing your pleasure.

This is the type to go for if you’re looking for an ultra-smooth or non-realistic texture (ribbed, beaded, etc). For anal use I’d shoot for 3 to 5 inches in length with a maximum girth of 1.5 (although I’d suggest closer to 1 inch in most cases!). If you are looking for your very first insertable toy, and don’t have much experience with penetrative sex or masturbation, you’ll definitely want to start out small. It’s a great dildo for beginners because of the slim shape and diameter of 1.5 at the widest point. It’s also super flexible which makes it seem a lot less intimidating to complete beginners.